Gossiping Steals Your Energy
Gossiping is petty, and when you do it you are an emotional vulture tearing someone to pieces from a safe distance while they are not there.
Dandapani defines gossip plainly: getting together with a few people and tearing somebody down, out of their presence, from a very safe place. He compares it to the vultures he watches in Costa Rica strip a carcass to bones, and tells you to excuse yourself, change the topic, or find something more useful to do with your time and energy.
What this talk covers
- Gossiping is getting together with a few people and tearing somebody else down emotionally, mentally and verbally, from a distance and not in their presence.
- It is like a flock of vultures finding a carcass and ripping it to pieces until there is nothing left but bones.
- There are better things to do with your time and energy, such as petting a cat or planting a tree.
- If the people around you are gossiping, excuse yourself, change the topic, or move on to something else.
You are like a vulture, an emotional vulture that's just tearing somebody down.Dandapani
Questions
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You are tearing someone down from a safe place while they are not there. He calls it petty, and a poor use of your finite time and energy.
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Excuse yourself, change the topic, or move on to something else.
Transcript
200 words · 1:29
Gossiping. People love to gossip. Gossiping is so petty. What is gossiping?
Gossiping is you getting together with a few people and tearing somebody else down. From a distance, from a very safe place. Emotionally, mentally, verbally, tearing that person to shreds. Not in their presence.
It's like a flock of vultures that finds a carcass and they just rip that thing to pieces. I live in Costa Rica, there are plenty of vultures here and I watch them rip a carcass to pieces. And before long, there's nothing left but bones.
When you gossip, it's no different. You are like a vulture, an emotional vulture that's just tearing somebody down. Don't gossip. Gossip is so petty.
be petty, right? Do you really have nothing else in your life to do that you need to gossip? Go pet a cat, go plant a tree, do something useful with your time and energy, but don't gossip. Gossiping is just petty, all right? Avoid gossiping and if you are in a situation where the people around you are gossiping, excuse
yourself, change the topic, move on to something else. There are better ways to to utilize your time and energy than gossiping.