Not Everyone Deserves Your Story
When you put something online you are handing it to the entire spectrum of humanity, and the people at the far end can strip the grace out of something intimate, so be more protective of what you share, when, and with whom.
Dandapani recounts a head of HR telling him to always know your audience, and what that meant once he applied it to the internet. He describes the range of people receiving anything you post, why sacred things lose their value when too many people are involved, and says that no matter how well you control your own mind, everybody can be impacted, which is why monks live within walls.
What this talk covers
- A head of HR at a multi-billion dollar company told him to always know your audience, and hearing it from her landed profoundly.
- Anything you put online goes to the entire spectrum of humanity, from the most enlightened and compassionate person to the least evolved, and each one responds differently.
- When what you share is intimate, personal or sacred, the people at the far end of that spectrum can devalue it and take the grace and essence out of it.
- Sacredness can be stripped simply by the number of people involved; the same thing shared in an intimate group with trust and safety is received well.
- No matter how good you are at controlling your mind and your ball of light, everybody can be impacted, and that is why monks live within walls, where they are secure and protected.
And no matter how good you are at controlling your mind and your ball of light, everybody can be impacted.Dandapani
Questions
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He counsels being more protective of what you share, when you share it, and who you share it with. Anything posted online reaches the full range of humanity, and the people at one end of that range can take the grace out of something sacred.
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Because it was not received well, and that has a repercussion in you. He says value and sacredness get stripped when too many people are involved, whereas the same thing shared in an intimate group with trust and safety lands the way it should.
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No. He is direct about it: no matter how good you are at controlling your mind and your ball of light, everybody can be impacted. That is the reason monks live within walls, where they are secure and protected.
Transcript
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I look at the internet as, you know, let me just dial back a little bit and you can put this on. A few years ago, I was speaking to a company, a multi-billion dollar company, and the head of HR artist, lady said something to me, always know your audience. And I don't, even though I had heard it before, when I heard it from her, it so profoundly impacted me. And I realized that
when you put something online, you put it to the entire spectrum of humanity. On one end, and it's the most enlightened, wisest human being with full love and compassion and empathy. On the other hand, it's an unevolved Neanderthal, you know?
And we're all evolving, all beautiful God's children. Each one's gonna respond differently. And sometimes when you share something that's intimate or personal or sacred,
the ones on the other end of the spectrum can devalue it, take the grace out of it, take the essence out of it, you know? Yeah, I've...
It'd be a little bit more protective sometimes of what you share and when you share and who you share it with. You know, I found something very similar, but I've reprogrammed my mind a little bit and maybe this is just to accept it, right? Like maybe this is just my story to get me through it, but I found that I'm just going to share me, authentically me, the good, the bad, the ugly. For those it resonates with amazing, for those it doesn't amazing, for those who criticize me and call me a dirt bag piece of junk and they hope I get hit by a bus.
bus, like that's amazing because for me it's all, again going back to what you said, it's all about like where am I focusing on? Like what am I gonna give weight to my life? And if I give, if my words are impacting somebody that is that Neanderthal, as you alluded to, so much weight that they take the time out
of their day to bash me or criticize me, I feel like it's not my job to carry their shame or their blame or their criticism and so I just let it go but I totally also understand what you said because I've also been like super public about a lot of things and then I'll just get random people that will just show up
at the ranch and be like hey can I see the zebras I'm like who are you you know or like another example is like we got these zebras at the ranch and I just like oh my gosh this is so cool like I'm just gonna share with the world like this is awesome I get a call from our insurance company like hey
do you have zebras?" I'm like, who's asking? They're like, well, our, one of our actuary guys was doing research on you and he saw you posting zebras online and unfortunately we can't ensure any
properties with zebras and so we're going to have to drop you from your insurance. I'm like, never crossed my mind that that was a possibility. All right. Whoops.
So then, you know, we had to go course correct. So I totally understand what you're saying at the same time because you don't often recognize the impacts of what you're sharing and how that might come back, like the insurance, right?
They might come back to me and say, Hey, you know, you're going to get cancer. So even like, you know, a lot of people share sacred moments with their family and this and that, and I think some kind of sacredness and value can be stripped when too many people are involved, sometimes in an intimate group and in a
safe setting where everyone does trust and security and you share, you know, it's received well, sometimes when you share something beautiful and it's not received well, it can have a repercussion in you. And no matter how good you are at controlling your mind and your ball of light, everybody
can be impacted. Absolutely. And I think that's beautiful because I think a lot of people will listen to this and say, okay, he's got it all figured out.
He's perfect. You know, can't be penetrated. His subconscious is solid. He's good.
And what you're saying there is it doesn't matter how much work. It doesn't matter how many hours. We all at the end of the day are humans. We are energy and we have emotion and words do carry weight and can impact us whether
we want to admit it or not. And man, I'll say this to you. There is a reason why monks live within walls. What's that?
Because they can be impacted by others. So when you live within walls, you're secure and you're protected.