Why You Attract the Same Person

So I give you a very simple example. Boy dates go, they go out for two years, they have a great intimate relationship, they break up. Boy hangs out with his friends to get over the relationship.

The girl does, you know, chocolate, shopping, wine therapy with her girlfriends for six months, finally says, I'm over him. She starts dating again.

Who does she attract into her life? Quite often a similar guy, you know, different person, but with the same vibration, same type of person. I've had so many people come up to me, boys and girls, say, I keep attracting the same

type of person into my life. Common thing I hear all the time. Why? Because you date, John dates Sue, they have two years of relationship.

Sue has vibrations that are experiences, emotional experiences that are vibrating at the frequency of John in his subconscious. They break up. Experiences are still vibrating at the frequency of John in his subconscious.

Now she goes to date. Who does she attract? drawn, name theta of a similar frequency. And that just happens. So energy doesn't know how to discriminate between what's good for you and what's not good for you. It's just

energy. So anything of a similar frequency gets drawn to you. So if you know how the subconscious works and you know how to program it using affirmations with the clear choice, concise choice of positive words, clear visualization, and a corresponding feeling, feeling being the most important component because it's the actual energy that attracts, then you

can draw, bring into your life anything you want. Do you have a certain set of affirmations that you do? Do you do them every morning? I do them, yeah, I do them every morning and night.

I have one affirmation for my personal life, one for my family life, and one for my business. Just a single one or a list of them. A single one.

A single one. Yeah, because you wanna train, you wanna program the mind, right? So if you have affirmations like a page long,

it's very hard to shape it. So it needs to be concise and positive. And then visualize that concise thing in however you want it manifested.

Right, so for example, if you do this show, your affirmation is, I will interview fascinating people that can be, they can give great insights to my listeners.

And I just made that up on the spot. You'll come up with something, right? But it's concise. And then you visualize yourself sitting here with your crew, the cameras, talking to different

people. Obviously, you can't see what they look like, so you don't know who they are. They just visualize a person sitting here, maybe a faceless person, long hair, bald, markings on his heads, then...

Robes. Robes, beads. So that's your visualization. And now you're feeling.

What does it feel like? And the feeling you can know because you've interviewed so many people, how do you feel after an interview? Do you walk away and go like, wow, that was really insightful.

I learned a lot, this is wonderful. Take that same feeling and hold that feeling in your mind as you repeat that affirmation with the visualization. Creates a pattern in your subconscious

that starts to vibrate at that frequency. And you might've interviewed hundreds of people and there's some interviews that you go like, oh, I wasn't, that's great.

But there's some that you go like, this is probably one of my best. Take the feeling from your best interview and insert that into your affirmation.

Because now it's gonna be vibrating and that feeling and then you'll start attracting anything of a similar vibration towards it. Okay.

Now there's the movie The Secret that says all you have to do is think about it and it shows up on your doorstep. Do you subscribe to that or do you subscribe

to there's gonna be a lot of action on the top of that? Oh, I think there has to be a lot of action. I haven't watched a movie or read the book, but I do believe that McGrew had a beautiful saying

where he said, where awareness goes, energy flows. So if you put your awareness on something, that's where your energy is flowing and that's what's gonna start manifesting in your life,

but it needs to be followed through with action. And I think a lot of people just think about things and have cop-out lines like, the universe will manifest it for me. That's the biggest cop-out ever.

Do the work, manifest it yourself. Don't wait for a handout. Go out there and create it. But put energy into it.

So I always tell people the way to look at energy is, look at energy the same way you look at water. If I took a watering can and I watered a garden bed, what would grow the weeds or the flowers?

They both grow, right? that water doesn't know how to discriminate between the weeds and the flowers. Energy is the same way too. If you put energy into something, it'll grow whether it's positive or negative.

And the way to put energy into something is to put your awareness on it. So where awareness goes, energy flows. You keep your awareness on something, that's where your energy is flowing. And if your energy is flowing, that starts to manifest in your life.

Regardless if it's positive or negative, it doesn't matter. All you have to do is keep your awareness there. So if you can think about something long enough over and over again, energy starts to flow, that starts to manifest in your life.

But you also need to do the work. I can't just sit here and just think about it all day. You need to also then support it with actions.